Valentine’s Day 1990. Heather called her mom from college in Fort Collins, Colo., to wish her a Happy Valentine’s Day. In the course of that conversation Heather came out to her mother. Mardelle didn’t tell me for three days as she was afraid of my possible reaction. My father was a naval officer, Republican and a conservative Catholic. Some of that did rub off on me, so her fear was warranted, but unnecessary. My reaction was to decide I needed to find out what this was all about.